tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5117255044013272430.post1217079475401362387..comments2014-06-03T15:45:38.319-06:00Comments on This Path in Life: Invisible?This Path In Lifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02631355662172309547noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5117255044013272430.post-8780391749482732692012-07-10T06:49:50.894-06:002012-07-10T06:49:50.894-06:00I agree with the others. I also think some people ...I agree with the others. I also think some people hear "no kids" (for whatever reason) & in their minds, they are thinking "no kids YET." Even if you told them you werent' able to have a child -- that just doesn't register with some people. They hear the stories about miracle babies and think it happens all the time. There's a reason why they're called "miracles"... :ploribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5117255044013272430.post-73013291762520865802012-07-03T13:45:01.988-06:002012-07-03T13:45:01.988-06:00Thanks for your input. I do agree that when I say...Thanks for your input. I do agree that when I say “we weren’t able to have a child” there is a lot of emotions and years of failure behind it. I think I will just go back to saying “no”. It doesn’t really seem like there is a difference to other people if we wanted children or not, they just hear that there aren’t any.This Path In Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02631355662172309547noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5117255044013272430.post-3455037509609773522012-06-28T19:48:47.122-06:002012-06-28T19:48:47.122-06:00You say: "We were not able to have a child.&...You say: "We were not able to have a child." In that statement is all the grief, the fear, the emotions and the time invested in your efforts to have a child. It's a huge statement for you. You remember the feelings of "uh oh, here comes THAT question" and you remember plucking up the courage to reply.<br /><br />She hears: "No kids" (even with the ensuing conversation) so it doesn't register with her because it doesn't establish a commonality between you both, so when she sees you again, she can't actually remember.<br /><br />I think it is very easy for people to shrink into their own experiences, and be unable to break out of that on a day-to-day basis. Clearly her only conversation starter is "do you have kids?" Or perhaps she's just very lonely, and desperate to find another parent with a child the same age as hers she can socialise with?Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5117255044013272430.post-56741506850680324852012-06-28T15:15:43.535-06:002012-06-28T15:15:43.535-06:00I think in some cases people forget...because they...I think in some cases people forget...because they weren't really listening (like what Klara wrote) in the first place or/and because of their busy lives. The more people they meet, the more mixed up the information becomes, so unless they really think that piece of information is important, they're likely to put that bit to the side (like when you can see something vaguely from the corner of your eyes without really focusing there).<br /><br />I haven't really experienced this myself, but that's because I don't really meet a lot of people in real life (well, except the customers in the supermarket I work in, but then again we don't really talk about that topic - except for this one old lady who mixed me up a few times with another Asian lady who has a child so she asked me about my child a few times, but I don't take it too heart because she's already 70 years old). But I can easily imagine the same thing happening to other people, as well.Amelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16792921371964029469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5117255044013272430.post-44030189033591857312012-06-28T13:27:30.812-06:002012-06-28T13:27:30.812-06:00nice to hear again from you!
Don't worry ... ...nice to hear again from you!<br /><br />Don't worry ... it does not happen only to you. It happened few times to me as well. So frustrating!<br /><br />Some people are just like that- they are so focused in themselves that when they ask something, they are not really listening. Well, they hear and perhaps remember for a day... but then the information is gone since it is not relevant for them.<br /><br />So in the last few years I really cherish my friends that I can talk openly to them (they are really only few of them). I am not interested in meeting lots of people & having small talks<br />(or even worse - that I think that one conversation is deep and the other part take it only as un unsignificant small talk)<br /><br />Anyway. I do not know if it of any help. I ALWAYS remember the things that you write!<br /><br /><br />PS: sorry for my English, sometimes find it hard to express myself.Klarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17028863974858724867noreply@blogger.com