I have been absent from my blog this last month. Life has just gotten busy and my blog and blog reading got moved to the back burner for a bit, but I’m catching up.
I do have a question for my blog friends. I want to know if this situation is common, or if it’s just something about me that makes people not remember important information about me.
I went to lunch today with a friend and our waitress turned out to be someone that I was friends with several years ago. She actually grew up in M’s neighborhood so he has known her since they were young. About 6 to 10 years ago I hung out with this girl quite often, until she got pregnant and had her son. Her son is now 5 or 6. I do see this former friend about once a year in random situations, but we are not friends like we used to be since our lives went in different directions when she got pregnant. We don’t contact each other or keep in touch, but the town I live in isn’t huge so we do run into each other occasionally.
I know last fall when I saw her, she had asked if M and I had kids yet, and instead of giving the common “no” or “not yet” answer I told her “we were not able to have a child”. I remember this because I started using this answer and people’s reactions are a lot different when you say this to them. I remember having a brief conversation that we had tried for years and used fertility treatments, but didn’t go into details.
So, why would she ask me again today if M and I had kids?
This is a big piece of information to tell people, and this isn’t the first time I have told someone that we weren’t able to have kids, only to have them forget and ask us at a different time if we have kids. Is it just me, and people don’t remember what I say, or invest the thought to remember that I had shared this important information with them, or does this happen to anyone else out there?
This is really frustrating. I don’t want to keep having the same conversation with people. Bringing it up once is bad enough. I don’t tell this to people that we just meet, but rather people that know, or have known us.
When she came back to our table with our food she asked my lunch friend if she had kids, and she doesn’t. My lunch friend is in her mid 20’s and just been married for 1 year. Then my former friend started to tell us how lucky we are that we don’t have step children and have to pay out $XXX.XX dollars a month, and that how she could buy a house, or this or that if they didn’t have to pay child support. I am pretty sure that my former friend has just turned insensitive and can’t see past her own life. It’s a pretty weird thing to say to someone you were friends with over 6 years ago and a stranger.