M asked me to go to the Dr with him after work. Honestly, this visit is way past due. M gets really bad ingrown toe nails. This particular one he has caused his toe to split from the infection this weekend. It’s really a very gross thing.
So we go to insta-care since we know we can’t get into the podiatrist on such notice and know we will see a new Dr. The nurse puts M’s toe in a warm tub to soak while we wait for the Dr. In walks Dr and the following conversation happens…
Dr: Eww, that’s a gross toe
(haha, it’s bad if the first thing the Dr comments on is how gross the toe looks)
M: Yep, that’s why I am here.
Dr: How long has that toe nail been ingrown?
M: A few days…
Me: Um, more than a few days.
Dr: Ah yes, I would say more than a few days.
The Dr starts gathering stuff up
Dr: So, do you two have any kids.
(M looks at me, I refuse to answer. I wonder why we are getting the kids question when we are in here for a pussy, swollen, ingrown, infected, and disgusting toe. Where is the connection between gross toe and kids?)
Dr: Oh…are you married?
Dr: Oh, how long have you been married?
M: 10 years
(you can insert a awkward silence here)
The Dr then numbs M’s toe and leaves for 20 minutes for the numbing to work. I tell M that it bothers me that the kid question is always the first question that people ask us when they meet us. M tells me it isn’t a big deal. We live in “Utah/Mormonville” and the majority of people our age have kids. I say that I know, but that I still find the question annoying. I ask M what he thinks it would be like to actually be able to move a conversation past the kids question without it being awkward. M starts cracking jokes about the funny things we could say and situations that we would find funny. That’s why I love this guy so much. He can make anything humorous and cheer me up. Although, we have found that other people find infertility/childless jokes to not be as funny as we find them, so we keep them to ourselves!